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@SL Many young people experience resistance, frustration, or even rejection when it comes to studying. From a psychological perspective, this is not simply “rebellion.” It is often a response known as Psychological Reactance - a natural reaction that occurs when people sense that their freedom is being restricted. When studying feels like something forced upon them by parents or society, rather than a personal choice, the mind may respond by pushing back - sometimes through d

@SL When caregiving enters a relationship, many couples are not prepared for how deeply it can affect their communication, emotional connection, and daily interactions. Arguments may repeat. Conversations may feel tense. Both partners may feel misunderstood. Yet beneath the conflict, there is often a shared reality: Both are trying... just in different ways. Reconnection does not come from solving the external problem immediately. It begins with changing how the couple intera

@SL In many relationships, conflict does not arise from a single issue, but from the emotional weight surrounding it. When one partner is supporting ageing parents with health, behavioural, or caregiving challenges, the situation often extends beyond responsibility. It becomes deeply personal...tied to identity, loyalty, and emotional history. Conversations that used to feel neutral can slowly turn into tense, repetitive, or emotionally charged exchanges. This represents the

When a relationship ends, it can feel as though the ground has been pulled out from under you. The pain, confusion, and heartache can be overwhelming. However, recovery is achievable. I want to share with you some gentle, practical steps that can assist you during this challenging period. Whether you are repairing a romantic relationship, a friendship, or family ties, these relationship healing tips can help you find your way back to peace and connection. Understanding the Ne

@SL When a marriage is burdened by the complexities of extended family relationships, the issue is often not about love… it is about unclear boundaries, conflicting loyalties, and emotional disconnection. Restoring a marriage that has been affected by a family tree requires more than just "getting along." It requires the creation of a psychological boundary, a reset of roles, identity, and connection. A) Intervention 1: Establishing the "Primary Unit." (Structural Therapy) In

@SL Part 1: The Invisible Third Party Marriage is often described as the union of two people, but in reality, many find themselves sharing a bed with their spouse’s entire lineage. It begins at the borders... where extended family, expectations, and personal boundaries meet. The saying “I married you, not your entire family tree” often comes up not from rejection, but from accumulated emotional strain. When a man places his parents' needs, feelings, and views above those of h

@SL When a child feels unmotivated to study, many adults tend to react with pressure: “Try harder.” “You are wasting time.” “You need to be more disciplined.” However, motivation does not grow through pressure. From a psychological perspective, motivation is built, not demanded. It develops in an environment of safety, confidence, and through small successes 1. Start with Understanding, Not Correction According to Self-Determination Theory (Deci & Ryan), human motivation is s

@SL In recent years, more parents have noticed their children becoming “tired of studying,” losing motivation, or even choosing to “lie flat”, doing the minimum required and steering clear of academic effort. Some may question: Is this a sign that the child has become more aware, more independent, or even wiser? From a psychological perspective, the answer is more complex. In most cases, it is not wisdom... it is a response. When “Giving Up” Is Actually Emotional Protection C

@SL In leadership, we are taught the importance of active listening. Yet in our closest relationships, many of us fall into a different pattern - defensive listening. This is not because we do not care. It is because, in moments of emotional tension, our minds instinctively seek to protect us. 1. What Is Defensive Listening? Defensive listening happens when a partner hears feedback, emotional expression, or hurt as a personal attack, rather than an invitation to understand. I

Article is out! Hot from the oven :D https://cnalifestyle.channelnewsasia.com/wellness/how-let-go-reconcile-estranged-family-friend-474286

Hi Serene, the CNA feature is up! https://cnalifestyle.channelnewsasia.com/wellness/crying-self-care-reduce-stress-healthy-mental-health-472881

Marriage is often painted as a beautiful journey filled with love, laughter, and companionship. However, beneath the surface, it requires effort, understanding, and a willingness to face challenges together. Before you say "I do," it is important to understand the common relationship issues that can arise and how to address them. Let us explore together what you need to know before marriage to build a strong, lasting partnership. Understanding the Foundation of a Healthy Marr

Life can be quite overwhelming at times, wouldn't you agree? When emotions are in turmoil and challenges accumulate, it becomes crucial to seek the right support. That is where online CBT therapy services come in, offering a compassionate, accessible way to address mental health struggles. I would like to share with you why this approach is becoming a trusted choice for many in Singapore, and how it could be the gentle push you require towards achieving emotional well-being.

Understanding Estrangement Estrangement can be a painful experience. It often leaves us feeling isolated and longing for connection. Whether it is a family member or a close friend, the absence of these relationships can create a void in our lives. Understanding the reasons behind estrangement is the first step toward healing. The Impact of Estrangement Estrangement can stem from various factors. Miscommunication, unresolved conflicts, or differing values can all lead to a ri

Hi Serene! Here is the CNA article: https://cnalifestyle.channelnewsasia.com/wellness/grumpy-old-person-personality-life-experiences-577756

@SL When parents observe that their children seem to be pulling away, with conversations becoming brief, visits happening less often, or messages going unanswered, the pain can feel confusing and like it came out of nowhere. Many parents find themselves asking, “What did I do wrong?” or “Why won’t my child just talk to me?” From a psychological perspective, silence is seldom a form of punishment. Instead, it is more frequently a means of protection. Silence as a Means of Pr

@SereneLee Suicide is often viewed as the tragic end of an individual’s pain. However, for the family, friends, and community that remain, it signifies the start of a lengthy and intricate path filled with grief, confusion, and lingering questions. In my role as a psychotherapist, I have seen how the loss of someone to suicide creates a ripple effect, extending well beyond the immediate relationships and affecting every facet of existence. Although the individual's pain may c

@SereneLee In Singapore and many cultures around the world, living with our elderly parents has long been a symbol of love, respect, and a sense of duty. It is a tradition woven into the fabric of our upbringing - reminding us of the care our parents provided us in our formative years. But as the world changes, so do our responsibilities, our priorities, and our perspectives. Somewhere along the way, the question arises: Is living with aging parents a blessing or a burden? Th

@SereneLee Written from the perspective of the elderly father, as if he were speaking his heart to his children and to the world - touching on pain, loneliness, and a longing for connection. Even a man who has failed in love still longs for it in his final days. "Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Some days, I sit quietly in the corner of the room, pretending I am dozing off - but really, I am listening…... hoping to hear my name, h

@SereneLee In the helping profession, both counsellors and social workers play crucial roles in supporting individuals, families, and communities. While their work often overlaps and they may collaborate closely, they are fundamentally distinct in their training, approach, and purpose . In recent years, there has been increasing discussion about merging their roles - especially in policy or manpower planning. But doing so could risk diluting the essence and effectiveness of